If you grew up in churches of Christ you know all about “baptism for the forgiveness of sins.” But I wonder if we think much about “forgiveness for the forgiveness of sins”?! Sound strange? Stay with me for a few minutes.
A few weeks ago, Ryan, at Trailside church, preached on Matt. 18:21-35 which ends with that reminder, to be forgiven by The Father, we must be willing to forgive. We ask to be forgiven as we have been willing to forgive others. In Jesus’ model prayer in Matt. 6:12, he prays, “and forgive us our sins as we have forgiven those who sin against us.”
On April 4, 2025, in his Renovaré Weekly, Brian Morykon (see www.renovare.org ) gives us a well-written “Forgiveness 101” so… please “forgive” me for sharing that letter in its entirety. It is so important for us to consider through this month. May we be refreshed as we think about how to live out this foundational tenant of following our Master, Jesus. May we be known as a people of forgiveness.
“Ah, how can I talk about forgiveness in a fresh way, both for your sake and mine? I want to feel again its liberating weight.
We know the sayings, the quotes, the mottos…
Harboring unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Forgiveness sets two prisoners free.
We love that stuff.
We love it until someone crosses our line—hurts our kids, breaks our bank account, votes for the enemy.
We love it until we cross our own line, violate our own values, inflict something inexcusable.
Then we pause. Because forgiveness in those moments can feel not only impossible but immoral—an abortion of justice.
Here’s where a “Forgiveness 101” refresher may be helpful:
- Forgiveness does not condone nor eliminate consequences; it releases the need for revenge.
- Forgiveness does not replace justice. It is “among other things its precondition” (Keller) and “the Christian weapon of social redemption” (MLK).
- Forgiveness doesn’t forget nor minimize; it faces, grieves, releases.
- Forgiveness can be chosen but not rushed. It doesn’t replace anger; it prevents contempt.
Forgiveness can happen in a moment.
It can take years.
Often it’s both.
Forgiveness is an act of will. More specifically, it is an act of willingness.
It is a divine initiation met by a human choice and met again and completed by divine grace.
Forgiveness requires humility. If we’re forgiving someone else, we must hold in mind how large a debt God has forgiven us. If we are forgiving ourselves, we must move from the false humility of self-loathing to the true humility of repentance. We bow and confess without excuse, then lift our heads to meet the eyes of Christ on the cross. In those eyes we find the mercy we couldn’t give to ourselves.
Forgiveness is extreme.
A graying, long-bearded man stands in a courtroom. He is addressing the serial killer who murdered his daughter. His voice quivers, not from the hatred from which he has already been delivered, but from the pain of loss. He was preceded by others who lost their loved ones and gave the killer words he expected and deserved: “I hope you rot in hell.”
The old man speaks. “There are people here who hate you. I’m not one of them… You’ve made it difficult to live up to what I believe, and that is what God says to do, and that is forgive, and he doesn’t say to forgive just certain people, he says forgive all. So you are forgiven.” And at this, the stone-faced killer wept.
Was that the final act of forgiveness for the old man? Maybe, maybe not. The command of Jesus to forgive seventy times seven can apply to the same transgression. Some hurts need four hundred ninety layers of forgiveness before the bleeding stops.
Forgiveness is everyday.
On Tuesday, I needed to talk to one of my kids about something. Before the conversation, the Spirit alerted me to my anger and irritation, so I took a few minutes alone to name my feelings before God. I released forgiveness toward my kid and received forgiveness for myself where I felt I had failed. From that place of forgiving and standing forgiven, I was able to enter into a fruitful conversation because the air wasn’t poisoned with unacknowledged resentment.
Finally, forgiveness is essential.
Jesus names it in the Lord’s Prayer just after daily bread, perhaps to pair sustenance of the body with sustenance for the soul. In haunting words, he says that if we don’t forgive others, the Father won’t forgive us. God is the First Forgiver, of course. Christ is saying it is to our great detriment not to pay that forgiveness forward.
So, Lord, help us receive your forgiveness and release your forgiveness—for big wrongs, for small wrongs; for your sake, for our sake; for the sake of your Kingdom coming on earth as it is in heaven. Let your people everywhere be known—and you known through them—by the power of their forgiveness.”
