Yes, believe it or not, this week we are celebrating 50 years of marriage! That simple statement raises some golden questions: What is the secret to 50 happy years of marriage? What are you going to do to celebrate saying, “I do?” What advice would you give to a couple just starting that same journey?
What a journey! On a very warm Ohio day, Aug. 2, 1975, Jill and Mark said “yes” to each other and to God for the adventures ahead. Although those promises were made a very long time ago, the frequent renewal of those promises and a daily decision to love each other has kept them current and in focus. Looking back, was it wise for Mark to take his young new bride to Saskatchewan that first winter without adequate warning? Did she have any idea what she was signing up for? Here’s our advice that every young couple headed into a life of ministry should bear in mind:
- Communicate openly and honestly concerning reservations, feelings and roadblocks to understanding each other. Of course, after 50 years, even if you can complete each other’s sentences, don’t! Don’t make assumptions. Say, “I love you!” out loud frequently, but prove those expressions with actions.
- Start and end your day with prayer and time in The Word. Talk about what you are hearing from God. Pray with and for each other.
- Share honestly about finances. Decide quickly who is more gifted in banking and finance and just go ahead and hand that over (to her!).
- Resolve conflict quickly. Not only must you remember that sun down is coming but also that tomorrow is going to be so much better if anger issues are talked out and resolved. Yes, there will be differences.
- Learn to listen. Yes, “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry” applies to married couples too! Don’t be thinking of what you are going to answer—simply listen!
- Speak life. Avoid death words. Sarcasm equals death words. So even if you speak fluent sarcasm (and are proud of it) …don’t! Use a daily dose of words that encourage each other! Aways speak positively of each other especially in the presence of other.
